Thursday, March 22, 2007

Annie's Mailbox, Here I Come!

So, I sent an email to Annie's Mailbox, read what I sent her!!!  I'll let you know if it gets published!

My partner, "Seth," was invited to his niece's wedding.  On the envelope
and invitation it was only addressed to "Seth."  Typically we wouldn't
think anything of this slip up, but a couple of years ago the niece's
mother declined to go to a family function at our house.  She later sent us
a letter stating that the reason why she didn't come was because she didn't
approve of our "homosexual lifestyle" and that her and her family attending
our party would show support.

So, while we know that I was politely told that I couldn't come, we're not
sure how to react.  We're not sure how the bride feels (the mother sent out
the invitations), and "Seth" isn't very close to the niece.  I polled a
couple of my relatives and I got varied answers ranging from declining and
sending a gift, "Seth" showing up by himself to support his niece, and my
personal favorite, showing up anyways because, as my best friend's mother
put it, I "look great is a suit and tie."  So apparently we're all at a
loss as what proper wedding etiquette dictates for this particular
situation.

I feel that since they don't view our relationship as valid, I should be
vindictive and decline without a gift.  However, I figured that I should
check with you gals and see the correct social response to the situation.

--Looking Great In A Suit

Posted by Ka'Dield at 16:07:26 | Permanent Link | Comments (8) |
Comments
1 - For my $.02 worth, I think you should decline with a gift certiciate from a store.

I don't get her mother's attitude, but then I don't have to. I don't get descrimination and prejudice on most levels. I do hope your letter is published. I think it poses a very common, but secret, problem.

All the best to you. (Comment this)

Written by: kiaten at 2007/03/24 - 10:13:36
2 - Thanks Kiaten! I'm tallying up the responses that I get from people in regards to this and that will probably influence our decision on this matter.

I should totally show up in my suit and tie though. I look so freaking hot in it! (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/24 - 15:40:23 in reply to: 1
3 - *pssst*

Casey, no one believes you. (Comment this)

Written by: JessPond at 2007/03/24 - 23:48:43
4 - Whatever!

I'm PRETTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/25 - 01:59:59 in reply to: 3
5 - I guess the polite thing to do would be to send a gift and not go to the wedding. However, you could enclose a note with the gift saying you do not approve of the heterosexual lifestyle and you are not attending because you refuse to be a party to such a distasteful event. But that's just me... (Comment this)

Written by: Jennifer at 2007/03/25 - 14:32:57
6 - I like Jennifer's idea about the note not approving of the heterosexual lifestyle! (Comment this)

Written by: kiaten at 2007/03/25 - 21:19:28
7 - Jennifer intimidates me with her always witty and insightful posts. I cannot even hope to keep up. But, imho, send a gift and don't go. Unless Mike really wants to go, in which case, a supportive partner would understand and let him go (yeah, right). While he's at the wedding, you can come to Birmingham and party with the girls. When's the wedding and when will you be here? (Comment this)

Written by: Nancy S. at 2007/03/26 - 01:09:40
8 - I agree, I did like that idea. However, in order to keep the peace, I think that Mike is gonna go to the wedding but not stay for the reception. So maybe I'll have to come down to Birmingham while Mike is at the wedding :) (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/27 - 20:26:25 in reply to: 6
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