Thursday, March 22, 2007

A Letter To Hetrosexuals

I'm probably violating copyright law but, after reading this, I did want to post it on my website.  I thought the way it was written was very fluid and to the point.

Excellent.

A LETTER TO HETEROSEXUALS

FROM THE LA TIMES:

An aging 72-year-old gay man isn't hopeful about the future.

By Larry Kramer, LARRY KRAMER is the founder of the protest group ACT UP and the author of "The Tragedy of Today's Gays."
March 20, 2007

DEAR STRAIGHT PEOPLE,

Why do you hate gay people so much?

Gays are hated. Prove me wrong. Your top general just called us immoral. Marine Gen. Peter Pace, chairman of the Joint Chiefs, is in charge of an estimated 65,000 gay and lesbian troops, some fighting for our country in Iraq. A right-wing political commentator, Ann Coulter, gets away with calling a straight presidential candidate a faggot. Even Garrison Keillor, of all people, is making really tacky jokes about gay parents in his column. This, I guess, does not qualify as hate except that it is so distasteful and dumb, often a first step on the way to hate. Sens. Hillary Rodham Clinton and Barack Obama tried to duck the questions that Pace's bigotry raised, confirming what gay people know: that there is not one candidate running for public office anywhere who dares to come right out, unequivocally, and say decent, supportive things about us.

Gays should not vote for any of them. There is not a candidate or major public figure who would not sell gays down the river. We have seen this time after time, even from supposedly progressive politicians such as President Clinton with his "don't ask, don't tell" policy on gays in the military and his support of the hideous Defense of Marriage Act. Of course, it's possible that being shunned by gays will make politicians more popular, but at least we will have our self-respect. To vote for them is to collude with them in their utter disdain for us.

Don't any of you wonder why heterosexuals treat gays so brutally year after year after year, as your people take away our manhood, our womanhood, our personhood? Why, even as we die you don't leave us alone. What we can leave our surviving lovers is taxed far more punitively than what you leave your (legal) surviving spouses. Why do you do this? My lover will be unable to afford to live in the house we have made for each other over our lifetime together. This does not happen to you. Taxation without representation is what led to the Revolutionary War. Gay people have paid all the taxes you have. But you have equality, and we don't.

And there's no sign that this situation will change anytime soon. President Bush will leave a legacy of hate for us that will take many decades to cleanse. He has packed virtually every court and every civil service position in the land with people who don't like us. So, even with the most tolerant of new presidents, gays will be unable to break free from this yoke of hate. Courts rule against gays with hateful regularity. And of course the Supreme Court is not going to give us our equality, and in the end, it is from the Supreme Court that such equality must come. If all of this is not hate, I do not know what hate is.

Our feeble gay movement confines most of its demands to marriage. But political candidates are not talking about--and we are not demanding that they talk about--equality. My lover and I don't want to get married just yet, but we sure want to be equal.

You must know that gays get beaten up all the time, all over the world. If someone beats you up because of who you are--your race or ethnic origin--that is considered a hate crime. But in most states, gays are not included in hate crime measures, and Congress has refused to include us in a federal act.

Homosexuality is a punishable crime in a zillion countries, as is any activism on behalf of it. Punishable means prison. Punishable means death. The U.S. government refused our requests that it protest after gay teenagers were hanged in Iran, but it protests many other foreign cruelties. Who cares if a faggot dies? Parts of the Episcopal Church in the U.S. are joining with the Nigerian archbishop, who believes gays should be put in prison. Episcopalians! Whoever thought we'd have to worry about Episcopalians?

Well, whoever thought we'd have to worry about Florida? A young gay man was just killed in Florida because of his sexual orientation. I get reports of gays slain in our country every week. Few of them make news. Fewer are prosecuted. Do you consider it acceptable that 20,000 Christian youths make an annual pilgrimage to San Francisco to pray for gay souls? This is not free speech. This is another version of hate. It is all one world of gay-hate. It always was.

Gays do not realize that the more we become visible, the more we come out of the closet, the more we are hated. Don't those of you straights who claim not to hate us have a responsibility to denounce the hate? Why is it socially acceptable to joke about "girlie men" or to discriminate against us legally with "constitutional" amendments banning gay marriage? Because we cannot marry, we can pass on only a fraction of our estates, we do not have equal parenting rights and we cannot live with a foreigner we love who does not have government permission to stay in this country. These are the equal protections that the Bill of Rights proclaims for all?

Why do you hate us so much that you will not permit us to legally love? I am almost 72, and I have been hated all my life, and I don't see much change coming.

I think your hate is evil.

What do we do to you that is so awful? Why do you feel compelled to come after us with such frightful energy? Does this somehow make you feel safer and legitimate? What possible harm comes to you if we marry, or are taxed just like you, or are protected from assault by laws that say it is morally wrong to assault people out of hatred? The reasons always offered are religious ones, but certainly they are not based on the love all religions proclaim.

And even if your objections to gays are religious, why do you have to legislate them so hatefully? Make no mistake: Forbidding gay people to love or marry is based on hate, pure and simple.

You may say you don't hate us, but the people you vote for do, so what's the difference? Our own country's democratic process declares us to be unequal. Which means, in a democracy, that our enemy is you. You treat us like crumbs. You hate us. And sadly, we let you.

 

Posted by Ka'Dield at 10:58:28 | Permanent Link | Comments (10) |
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1 - While that isn't the most wonderfully written letter in the history of letters (eg "you have equality, we don't"...uhm, then it's not equality if one group has and the other hasn't, is it? It's favoritism) I tend to agree.

The hate IS evil. It's awful. Just because you don't agree with something doesn't mean that people are not people. And if heterosexuals deserve respect, safety, and honor, SO DOES EVERYONE ELSE.

And I, my friends, am as conservative as they get. But I'm a CHRISTAN and you know what? However we chose to interpret the Bible, if it means we do think homosexuality is wrong, or if we think it's ok, or if we don't have a friggin' clue, the Bible is CLEAR on hate and treating others with respect.

People piss the crap out of me sometimes. I don't care if you don't want to agree with the practice of homosexuality, that is NOT the point. The friggin' POINT is that people don't need to be ASSES.

And I'm tired of my generation, and my political party, acting like asses. (Comment this)

Written by: JessPond at 2007/03/22 - 16:06:44
2 - Although, technically, I'm minorly offended that he seems to imply that ALL straight people are hateful gay-bashers.

That's just not true.

But I get the point, like I said. (Comment this)

Written by: JessPond at 2007/03/22 - 16:09:07
3 - Well yea, it's not all straight people, that's just silly. I think it's more directed towards the straight people that think it's ok to treat us like second class citizens.

And, I think that, come the next elections, when the poll workers ask for our party affiliations, we should tell them that we're Communists!!!!!

Hail Hitler and The Precious! (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/22 - 16:24:04
4 - Okay, I know I have been absent for a while, not even quietly lurking, and I am sorry! So, since the kids are on a spring break an losing my mind, I just had to see who was blogging, since jennifer is off camping (with one of my children, I may add!). After reading this recent post, I have to tell yo I just discovered the hilarious letter to Dr. Laura Schelssinger (yes, i live under a rock, according to some people!). You know the one, it is posted on Snopes now? About since the Bible says homosexuality is wrong, then why can't I own Mexican and Canadian slaves, kill the people I know who don't eat Kosher, and other various mandates from the old testament! Basically, this anonymous letter makes a really good point; using the old testament to say it is okay to hate people is simply wrong. And if you are a Christian or any kind of decent person, you wouldn't go there anyway.
This is the address!:http://www.snopes.com/politics/religion/drlaura.asp
It just made me laugh. Jess, you are so right; with the bible, interpretaion is EVERYTHING. Jesus was a good guy--he hung out with the dregs of society, because he loved everyone. He was considered a real rabble rouser himself! Okay--I'll get off my soap box now and keep reading the month of previous posts that I have definitely missed out on. (Comment this)

Written by: Kiki at 2007/03/22 - 19:55:09
5 - Kiki--

What was funny was, the day after you posted this, my cousin's wife sent me a copy and paste of the letter that was written (she doesn't read my blog, so I found this funny).

And, FYI, if everyone could own Mexican slaves, this world would be a better place. *laughs*

Just kidding...I promise... (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/24 - 15:42:25 in reply to: 4
6 - I didn't have time to comment on this one yesterday, but people are always going to condemn whatever is different. History bears that out time and time again. Blacks, Jews, gays, whoever doesn't fit the tiny little parameters established by tiny little minds is up for hating. Kiki and I have discussed the issue of homosexuality many many times (in an attempt to legitimize the secret lust we harbor for one another....just kidding, she's blonde and I don't go for blondes!!!)...but seriously, one thing we agree on is that the argument against homosexuality is in the Old Testament. My understanding of Jesus is that He is the new law, come to get rid of all the rules and regulations the Jewish community followed. Jesus came with one simple, powerful message that no one seems to get: Love One Another As I Have Loved You!! He didn't say: Love only the straight, white, upper middle class people who go to church. He said to LOVE EVERYONE!!! So there you go, no reason to hate anyone for anything. I love the gay people!! Some of my best friends are gay people!! Gay people rock!! And they dress real good too!! (Comment this)

Written by: Jennifer at 2007/03/26 - 22:59:57
7 - I didn't have time to comment on this one yesterday, but people are always going to condemn whatever is different. History bears that out time and time again. Blacks, Jews, gays, whoever doesn't fit the tiny little parameters established by tiny little minds is up for hating. Kiki and I have discussed the issue of homosexuality many many times (in an attempt to legitimize the secret lust we harbor for one another....just kidding, she's blonde and I don't go for blondes!!!)...but seriously, one thing we agree on is that the argument against homosexuality is in the Old Testament. My understanding of Jesus is that He is the new law, come to get rid of all the rules and regulations the Jewish community followed. Jesus came with one simple, powerful message that no one seems to get: Love One Another As I Have Loved You!! He didn't say: Love only the straight, white, upper middle class people who go to church. He said to LOVE EVERYONE!!! So there you go, no reason to hate anyone for anything. I love the gay people!! Some of my best friends are gay people!! Gay people rock!! And they dress real good too!! (Comment this)

Written by: Jennifer at 2007/03/26 - 23:00:09
8 - And, hopefully, God willing, they will turn you from Faded Glory and George to Prada and Armani!! (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/27 - 20:28:18 in reply to: 6
9 - "And they dress real good too!!"

Casey....

Are you really straight? Is all this gay business a ploy to get my guard down so you can see me naked? (Comment this)

Written by: JessPond at 2007/03/28 - 02:48:51
10 - Jess you think that everyone wants in your pants.

And, while that's true, I just wanna wear your sweet panties, not actually see what's under 'em :)

VUE! (Comment this)

Written by: Ka'Dield at 2007/03/30 - 18:03:48 in reply to: 9
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